It’s pretty confusing, even for those of us who consider ourselves to be othergendered! Me, I like “Queer”. I mean, I could break it down for ya, if you really need a label. Try this one on: I am a: Lesbian identified Stone-Femme Queer. Howz that?? My partner is a: Gay, Soft-Butch, Lesbian. She likes “Gay” while I prefer “Queer”. Still, for me Dyke, Gay, Lesbian, Lez, Lezzie, Homo, Rug Muncher; whatever… they all work. (I’m not so hot on “abomination”, though.)

Are these merely “gender identities” in a world where the cultural norms have previously been designated by a patriarchial political, religious understanding? Or is it possible that we’ve overlooked some folks in our understanding of gender as based on sexual organs?? Are there actually more than 2 genders?

As we expand the boundaries of our understanding of sexuality, desire, cultural taboos and freedom of self expression, we’re also expanding our understanding of gender. Well, maybe understanding is a bit strong. Traditional western religion would have us believe that gender is a purely dualistic/binary thing. Adam and Eve, procreation and all that. That anything outside of that is “wrong”. At worst an “abomination”, at best a mistake of nature.

At GenderdotOrgyou can find an excellent variety of gender related articles, statistical reports and more. Among the various tools there the (.pdf) Gender Variance Model and the (.pdf) Guide to Using the Gender Variance Model.

The model and guide above are teaching/lecture tools to be used to assist in gender education, so are pretty easily assimilated if one begins with an open mind and a bit of self awareness and life experience to go with it.

Readers might want to download at least the Model above, to help follow along. But the guide itself is a worthwhile read, and I’ll only be using snippets here. (It’s tiny. Only takes a couple of seconds even on dialup)

From the guide: Intro

Transgendered people are the most stigmatized and misunderstood of the larger sexual minorities (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender). Since gender follows physical sex for most people, transgenderism and even transsexualism are almost impossible to understand by those who are not transgendered themselves. While transgendered people are most familiar with gender variant expressions and cross-gender identities, there are many other forms of gender variance exhibited by all kinds of people – regardless of their social or gender identities. Revealing these other forms of gender variance shows how common it really is – and thus provides the all-important context for understanding transgendered people.

The basic concepts are as follows:

First, we must separate sex from gender:

Sex is the physical anatomy and biology that determines whether someone is male, female, or intersexed (formerly called hermaphroditic)

Gender is a psychosocial construct used to classify a person as male, female, both, or neither. Gender encompasses all of human behavior, including sexuality.

Those people who cannot or choose not to conform to societal gender norms associated with their physical sex are Gender Variant. It is very important to stress that many people choose to be gender variant in some form and do not consider themselves ‘born that way’.

Alot of folks would fall into non traditional gender variances without even realizing it. For instance the male nurse, the female construction worker, the long haired male, the agressive/outspoken female. These are all Gender Variances, albeit small ones. Today, most of us take these gender variences in stride. Not all that long ago women wearing pants would have fallen here. As the cultural norm changes, so does the level of gender variance.

Transgender is an umbrella term used to describe visibly Gender Variant people who have gender identities, gender expressions or gendered behaviors not traditionally associated with their birth sex.

Transgender is often mistakenly understood to mean Transsexual. Transsexual people, who have undergone or seek to undergo sex reassignment, comprise a minority within the transgender population. Most transgendered people do not wish to change their sexual anatomy.

Transgender can also mean anyone who transcends the conventional definitions of ‘man’ and ‘woman’, and who use a wide variety of terms to self-identify.
Transgendered people are usually categorized by their Gender Vector, which describes the direction of the gender change. The two gender vectors are Male-to-Female (MTF), or Female-to-Male (FTM).

It’s important to clarify two common misconceptions about transgenderism :
Transgender is not a sexual orientation. However, it is a sexual identity that has become politicized, and so it is now commonly added to the list of other sexual minorities, which are sexual orientations – as in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender.

It’s important to note that this is where alot of folks, even those within the LBGTQ community, become confused. Why does a MTF Transperson then live as a lesbian? Many people will assert that if a man believes he was born to a be a woman then s/he “should” be attracted to men. The movie NORMAL, starring Jessica Lang and Tom Wilkinson addresses alot of trans issues in a believable and touching examination of love. Why does the Butch lesbian find herself more often attracted to “straight” women who seem not to fall into the category of gender variant? Women who appear particularly feminine, as our culture perceives/defines it? Could these examples lead us to the reasoning that there is more to the question of gender than “identity”? Could there possibly be more than two genders based on biology/sex?

There’s alot more info in the guide that I’m not going to cover, and alot of resources on the Internet for anyone who cares to further explore their understanding of gender and gender identity, but this is it for today from your favorite (dare I hope?) Queer blogger.A good place to start is Gender Watch at ZNet.

I extend a challenge to you my most excellent friends and readers. Just as an excercize in self awareness. Make a list of ways that you might be gender variant. Don’t panic, my lovely straight friends, your gender variances don’t make you “other gendered”. Just a way to look into the subject based on current societal norms, and perhaps the insight will assist in your understanding of other people. Have fun and open your minds and hearts!!

Now, regular readers of Thorne’s World know, I offer you a treat. Your reward, if you’ve made it this far, (although I’m sure some of you horndogs skip to the bottom just for these links!!). Venusday erotica links. Since this is my first official post at SirensChronicles, I’ll include a little disclaimer:

the author is not responsible for the reader’s reactions to the materials in the following links. The content included may be offensive to some readers and is not intended for minors. If the reader finds her/himself getting flushed, having a rapid heartbeat or other symptoms of excitement, i
t is the reader’s responsibilty to discern whether the symptoms are indicative of the necessity of a 911 call, or of a good time.

How was that for a “little” disclaimer?!

Both of today’s selections come from textfiles.com. Your first enticing romp is a trans fantasy that would make even the straightest het’s libido rise!! (Remember folks, spaghetti is straight; until you heat it up!!)

Fantasy Cruise part 1
Fantasy Cruise part 2

Our second story is a doozie, entitled To Worship You
It’s a sexy psychological romp from the mind of a het Bottom (Switch) Playing at top in a BD/SM scenario. Juicy!!!

I’ll be back next week with more Venusday fun, so until next time, remember everybody:

Wow!!! Who knew!!!
According to Betty Dodson,

Of course, I was born in May, you know. This explains a lot. Also my astrological sun sign (both tropically and sidereally, for astro purists) is, of course, Taurus. Taurus, I have read, governs the mouth and throat. Now forget that I love food, and smoke, and enjoy my oral fixations to the fullest and focus for a moment on the sexual aspects of this. You might not think it means alot, (but I do love to kiss…), but pair me up with a Scorpio, (my GirlyBloi) the sign that governs the genitalia, and you have a match made in heaven!!

But I digress… This week’s topic is… (drumroll, please)……..

Start with the above link. The poetry sux, but scroll on down to read the rest of the page. It’s pretty cute. (And I dunno if Grandma Dodson is gay or not, I haven’t read far enough and I’d hate to be accused (even by myself) of stereotyping, but I just have to say “GreeeOOOOoooooww”!!! Yummy lookin’ lady!

Down girl.

Okay so enjoy the polite but informative article by which I discovered today’s “Venusday Love” topic”,Do It Yourself Projects: A Guide to Female Masturbation“, By Jenny Stein and then let’s get down to the nitty gritty.
Clitical.com “Helping you hit the right spot”, has a very decent and detailed Female Masturbation Techniques section, as well as reader submitted masturbation technique tips.

A serious Masturbation Manual for Men with “pictures, illustrations and written instructions” (I know, I’m a pussy, but I’m just NOT venturing further than the link on this one. You guy readers will have to let me know how it works out for ya!)

Stop by JackinIndex at JackinWorld for a reasonably comprehensive FAQ/QnA forum. If you find the site lacking in any way, feel free to submit your own info and/or research.

A cute article on using masturbation as “practice for sex” includes this adorable quote:

“Because if your goal is to ejaculate quickly, you’re doing yourself more harm than good. It’s like practicing to be a baseball outfielder by seeing how many different ways you can drop the ball, or practicing your writing by seeing how many words you can misspell.”

Having once been one, I’m sure alot of straight women wish that their men would masturbate more often with this in mind.

A Google of “Mutual Masturbation” returns this Wikipedia entry on “Non-penetrative sex, or “Outercourse” aka “Frottage”. There is alot of “Safer Sex” info here for teenagers, adolescents and singles who like to play. Great stuff!

Well, I was looking for a few good links for:
female/female mutual masturbation
male/male mutual masturbation
female/male mutual masturbation, but I have to stop now and break one off…

Remember….