The tears we cry is the
laughter that keeps us coming back for more
The space between
The wicked lies we tell to keep us safe from the pain
There are no words to encompass this.
Horror. Tragedy. Impossible.
They all seem to float around the edges flirting with the truth, but none truly approach it.
The awful: My grandson, my lil Pharaoh, our precious Egyptian Prince died night before last. A perfect being of incredible light and joy, created and nurtured in love; gone. He stopped breathing. We don’t know why.
Bereft, destroyed, devastated. More words that are mere ghosts of reality to describe my poor daughter, my Fawn and her husband, our Aaron in their loss.
Grama, (me); Grammy, (GirlyBoi); and Nana (A’s mom), are simply holding. Holding our babies, knowing we can’t heal this or fix this our protect our children from this- this random event.
What we are doing is this: Moving them into a little house nearby (instead of the 2 hours away from us in a weekly motel where they have been making their tiny budding family’s beginning). What we would like to do: support them for a month to allow them some little time to pull and hold together and grieve and heal without the worry of jobs and bills and money.
We ask, no beg, that in leiu of flowers or cards, that you send cash to help us do this. Please, please click the donation button in the right top of the sidebar to help these kids have a brief respite from the pressures of the world while they begin the healing.
The song that rings in my mind that tells what can be told:
-Dave Matthews Band
The Space Between
-Dave Matthews Band
You cannot quit me so quickly
Is no hope in you for me
No corner you could squeeze me
But i’ve got all the time for you love
The space between
The tears we cry
is the laughter keeps us coming back for more
The space between
The wicked lies we tell and hope to keep safe from the pain
But will i hold you again
These fickle fuddled words confuse me
Like will it rain today
We waste the hours with talking talking
These twisted games we’re playing
We’re strange allies
With warring hearts
What a wild eyed beast you be
The space between
The wicked lies we tell
and hope to keep safe from the pain
Will i hold you again
Will i hold
Look at us spinning out in the madness of a rollercoaster
You know you went off like the devil in the church
In the middle of a crowded room
All we can do my love
Is hope we don’t take this ship down
The space between
Where you smile and hide
is where you’ll find me if i get to go
The space between
The bullets in our fire fight
is where i’ll be hiding waiting for you
The rain that falls
Splashed in your heart
Ran like sadness down the window into your room
The space between
Our wicked lies is
Where we hope to keep safe from pain
Take my hand
Cause we’re walking out of here
Oh, ohhh
Right out of here
Love is all we need dear
The space between
What’s wrong and right
Is where you’ll find me hiding
Waiting for you
The space between
Your heart and mine
Is the space we’ll fill with time
The space between
The space between










14 comments for this post
Oh, I am so sorry to hear about the death of your grandson. So horribly sad and tragic…you and your family are in my thoughts.
I am so sorry..this hits home as I have a new grandchild in neonatal ICU right now who was 2 months premature…I commmiserate and share your grief..this is a time for family to come together. Blessings and light on all.
Thorne, I am so sorry for your loss.
–Josh (jklugman from clipmarks)
Thorne, you are in my thoughts. I wish there were words to express to you how sorry I am for your daughter and for you. My heart aches for you and your family. I am so sorry.
This is simply beyond tragic. I’m so, so, so sorry Thorne. ;((
– “V” (TNCBT)
Both the tragedy and its attendant pain are unimaginable. I am so very sorry for this immeasurable loss. My love and my deepest hope for gentle healing are with you all. — Susan
Thorne,
I am so sorry to hear of this – we lost a little grandboy 7 years ago in much the same way. It never goes away – the pain just changes. My love to you and yours.
As a mother of three grown children and now grandmother to three – ages 10, 4 and 18 months -the absolute worst nightmare I can possibly imagine would be if something were to happen to one of my children, to my grandchildren. I can not even begin to imagine the depth of pain you and your family are experiencing. It breaks my heart to hear of things like this that happen and especially when they happen to the youngest family members. My thoughts, my prayers are with you and yours as you go through this terrible and tragic loss. Peace.May it somehow be yours today and in the difficult days ahead.
I am so sorry for your loss and am praying for you and your family. I am in tears after reading this! OH dear one~God bless y’all! (((((HUGS))))) sandi
Shelley mentioned your loss; I had to come and offer my condolences. May you somehow find peace in this, if not comfort and answers.
Lots of love from a total stranger–
I have no words either,they all sound so empty.
For what its worth-I love you all.I’m here where you cant see me loving you and praying for you and holding you all in my heart.
What strength I have is yours,whatever I can give is yours. In love and light ~ Ravy
my dear friend… i offer my love to you in this time of sorrow… would not this world be better off with the grace of innocence gleeming brightly — my heart roils among daggers
Michelle
I am sorry so for the loss of your precious grandson. May God give you and your family grace during this difficult time.
No words….tears,sorrow,so very very sorry for you and your family. There is nothing on earth worse than this. Nothing.
Thank you for commenting on my post yesterday. It was difficult to write but I needed to do so. It was comforting to me to know that there are others are out there who understand.
May God continue to hold you in the palm of His hand and in His loving arms. Know that He is holding your precious one as well.
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